Unplanned Parenthood: A Taboo

TSHERING LHAMU BHUTIA

Unplanned parenthood is one of the social issues that’s being faced by the majority of the communities in the world.
Such issues are based on their upbringing, where a contained environment plays a crucial role in shaping and developing a child or two.
It’s a common day problem evolving from generation to generation. It’s the medium of conflicting opinions set on moral grounds discerned as correct or incorrect personal or interpersonal social life decisions.
There are two sets of people usually in a contained environment – the bully and the submissive, almost sheep-like people. Who is in the wrong here? Debating fact but I genuinely feel both are in the wrong here. The one who chooses to violate peace and harmony and torture mentally/physically versus the other one who chooses to accept fate and go through it silently, respectively.
Unplanned parenthood is a raging issue today though we tend to claim to be modernised and forward-thinking. And it’s a kind of topic no one discusses.
Everyone has a very different and unique set of parenting techniques which may vary for each separate individual or a form of community, in educating children about their way of life in some form.
Some you may say are lucky enough to be taught well as humanly possible but there's another dark side. The worst ones possibly – domestic abuse, emotional or physical or sometimes both.
Some parents have the knack to spiral out their anger towards their children and for what apparent reasons? They grow old to be either a bully, get into depression, narcotics and drugs and sometimes even rage, which results in crimes that are brutal and horrible, leaving a kid to have unresolved trauma of abandonment issues, self-sabotage, people pleasing, gas-lighting and various other undiagnosed issues.
What is this line of torture and will it ever end? Parents think it’s okay to tell on their kids and compare them and act like they care when all they could be doing is increasing their intensity of low self-esteem and productivity. Maybe instead of comparing your children and whining about how great other kids are, take some time to get to know them. Little did we know love in a family was so fragile when it’s said to be the strongest bond of all.
When a place called home was known for security, happiness, unconditional love, harmony, and serenity is now known for rage, violence, hatred, anger issues, chronic depression, insecurity and low self-esteem.
Why wouldn’t a child go rogue? Some parents are so possessive to the point that they isolate their children, bounding them into doing anything else away from their home and the torment of continuous hatred and the abuse of their existence.
What could that child have possibly done when they get blamed for their very existence?  It is said that a child will follow in their parent's footsteps because they are the only set of two who have been there since birth, from talking to eating and almost everything else is taught. And they think that’s their noble cause. Not a responsibility but they get treated like they did you a favour. Your children will walk on your given examples and I don’t think there’s a prouder moment than giving your child a good set of moral grounds and principles rather than hanging them on a wall along with the degrees that you wanted. They may not get the degrees they wanted, but there’s so much more than being able to be academically successful.